Your Sexual Hints On A First Date Will Not Make Me Fall for You.

Some sexual hints can come across as harassing on a first date. Think before you speak and act.

Carol Townend

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Before I got married, both men and women who I dated made sexual comments and threw sexual hints at me on the first date. This is a huge turnoff. I prefer my partners to get to know me personally while allowing to do the same thing, then I will only have sex with or sleep with a partner if he or she shows a genuine interest, and that interest is mutual on my part.

I got tired when the famous chat up line became, “I think you have a hot body and there are things I want to do with you.” on a first date. It isn’t exactly the kind of turn on that gets my sex drive working, it just leads me to believe that the person I am dating only wants one thing. I don’t mind kind compliments about my body, if they are kind. By kind, I do not mean comments like, “You have a hot pair of breasts,” and “I want to wrap my legs around you.” I mean complimentary comments like, “Your hair is beautiful today,” or “I love what you’re wearing.” or, “You look hot in that.”

It is wrong to assume that all women want sex on the first date. We don’t. We want a chance to have a normal conversation along with doing something fun like watching a movie, going for a meal, and just enjoying getting to know each other. A little flirty fun is fine, however, there is a difference between being ‘flirty’ and hinting that the only thing you are after is sex. A flirty conversation is talking with a hint of fun. Comments such as “I like your perfume. You smell gorgeaus, I could literally wear it myself!” is a flirty comment, whereas comments like “You smell so good, I want to go home and take you straight to bed,” hints that you only want sex and does not tell a partner you are seriously into them. Of course, these comments are ok once you get to know each other over time and the relationship is progressing well. However, on a first date, they can create the wrong impression and turn the person you are dating right off

Let us talk about how men and women often let a partner know they like each other. As many of my readers know, I am talking about both men and women because I am bi-sexual. However, some women can be just as bad

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Carol Townend

I write about many issues, and I write fiction for all ages. You can visit my Amazon page here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Carol-Ann-Townend/e/B09GFV6C1C/